100 pages of goals-Part 1

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Its that time of the year when we create new resolutions for the new year only to break these resolutions after a few days. I don’t want resolutions, I want goals, something which is not black and white but something which shows progress.

Over the span 0f 2015 I have become an expert at setting really strict goals for myself but haven’t been able to stick to these because sometimes they are just too strict to be achieved.

I have made a goal in the past to give up on all junk, but what do you define as junk and what if you crave a bar of chocolate after day 5? Do I not get a bar of chocolate for the rest of my life? Sounds depressing…

Another would be to exercise 5 days a week, but what if I am travelling or ill or just don’t have the energy or time to work out? Do I feel bad and stuff myself with pizza?

Creating the right goals is an art and then sticking to these goals is another art. You need to master these two arts to be success. In other words you need to master the art of creating SMART goals and master the art of Habit. Willpower though sounds beautiful cannot help you to success in the long run.

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I have created the 100 pages goals for myself for the next 100 days starting today (read: 29-Dec-2015-07-Apr-2015). This is going to be the 1st quarter of goals for the year which almost automatically makes all my goals time based.

Research has shown that you require at least 30 days of doing something to make it into a habit after which you don’t have to push yourself for doing it. I love the idea where things happen naturally without having to push yourself to do something all the time. So I am going to include the H into my SMART for habits. I am now aiming for SMARTH Goals

SMARTH Goals helps me to achieve the goals once I have set these, but what should these goals be? What is my aim to achieve these goals, why am I working towards these? What if somebody is doing something else which I find interesting, am I going to drop a goal and set a new one?

For me my goals are about making a big impact, something which can inspire people, make me feel more secure, confident in myself and ultimately take me towards happyness. So I now add the I to my SMARTH goals and make them SMARTHI, I being for impact that the goal will have when I accomplish them

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What stops us…

What stops us from being happy or from working hard towards achieving it?

I have a lot of friends who tell me happiness belongs to being happy now rather than in the future. Happiness about this very moment and not something that happens in the past or the future. Though I do agree to the concept of living in the moment, I believe this is very loosely used and pretty flawed. All those gurus and spiritual teachers who have talked about living in the moment have worked hard for years to find a way to live in the moment and find a way to live in eternal bliss. They have a very disciplined life and they have made up their minds as to what they want to strive for and the rest doesn’t matter to them. Being truly happy takes a lot of work and introspection. Its about understanding what you want out of life regardless of what others might want and giving then giving it your all to getting there.

The last few years (read 3 years to be precise) have been difficult for me. A lot has changed from what I initially wanted and strive for. My internal path changed. My concepts to life became skewed. I became confused and eventually lost the confidence in myself.

Lets take rejection for example. Rejection can lead to a few reactions.

  1. You could either learn from it and become better
  2. You could just plainly move on with your life after a little pain and choose a different path
  3.  you could become bitter because you think you are better than others

I chose to become bitter (read chose as I believe how you react to life is in your hands) as I believed I was better than others only to realize how wrong I was.

2015 was a year when I actually worked hard on myself (only after a few blows and heartbreaks in 2014). I now want 2016 to be about a lot more hard work, understanding myself and truly going for  what I want and just that. I want to make a pledge starting today to just follow what I truly desire and nothing new in 2016. My actions could change depending on the results but my intentions should remain the same. I want to strive to begin my journey towards happiness.